Tolerance ?#$%&*#

I had an amazing ability to tolerate human beings of all varied attributes till a year back,I could tolerate umpteen number of senseless talks because I am of the kind of nature wherein if talks cannot keep me interested in the starting 5-10 minutes of a conversation,my mind automatically turns off the switches and I stop listening but my facial expressions would manage to cover that up for the rest of the time.I also the ability to stay polite and calm towards people who do not know how to talk,I should rather say "Mannerless" folks,never ever did I become rude and arrogant except when it was ABSOLUTELY necessary............but since a few days,I have realised that their is a necessity to give people whom I have been tolerating for a long time, in face( not that I never felt like that before but now it has crossed limits enough to make me burst out),they have long considered that I cannot answer back,but that is just because I have not been taught to be rude and arrogant.There are a few people I have come across who have the guts to put blame even when they themselves are nothing less than brainless morons...(I know this post is becoming too much of rant but just cant help ;) Sorry folks but I find this the best way to deal with the confusions and situations I come across.......)I wish I could answer back and give in face.......Would be really happy if I accomplish that in the coming days ;)Yes that is the only way I can get a feel of satisfaction with my own self...........So please keep me in your good thoughts so that God really gives me some "real unequivocal,plain and candid" contradicting skills !!!!! ;) ;)

Best Friends !!!!!!!

Jotting down in bullet points what best friends are all about :

• Distance does not matter for them, they can fight for silly reasons like not chatting even when available on g-talk to giving them a call for reasons as stupid as craving for a nice cup of masala chai....
• They are all about trippling on a two wheeler,riding about the whole city, wandering without reasons on the familiar streets of your town :) :)
• An evening spent surrounded with people who have decided upon the agenda to be your leg pulling and still when you leave you feel like you spent the best few hours of the day with them
• They would be the first ones to yell at you for your stupid mistakes but would protect you to the core when some body else raises a finger against you
• Will listen to your cribbing about silly and odd things patiently but will not spare you without a dose of scolding,and also would have the guts of making fun of the same after you get over it
• In a restaurant, would order your favourite stuff even without glancing at you,also would pass a jargon" What else do you eat anyway??"
• Would tease you with names of the all the people whose thoughts are enough to irritate the worst out of you , but would be the first ones to come to your rescue when you are stuck with any of the aforementioned beings ;) ;)

Any further thoughts to add to the list ????

The "D" Devil .....

Definitely not about the "Delhi Daredevils"............

Would narrate an incidence which happened a few days back, me and a friend were on our way back from office and were discussing weddings("Weddings",that is what has been happening since the past six months,every time you open your facebook account,you would definitely find wedding pictures of friends and if not that, the relationship status would definitely change ...),we just heard a few friends discussing about the "talks on marriage" that have recently begun in their homes.....

To our surprise everybody present there,all the girls(well educated )along with the other discussions were completely fine with the devil that i was talking above...."DOWRY",the words uttered were:

• "that is how it happens in our society,my parents are worried about how would they get 3 daughters married,it would cost around 70 lakhs"
• "my parents said that if a guy is ready to marry you without dowry,you should definitely consider your self lucky"..

The reason to get married to a guy just because he is sort of a saint who does not hold a price tag on himself quoting a hefty some lakhs.....no matter whatever the girl's choice is,the "NO DOWRY" choice of the guy is a rare quality to find amongst the Engineers, the MBA's, the CA's,the Doctors,who have a definite no bargain prices according to their profession,the choice is yours, so what if your girl is educated, pretty, confident.... you definitely would have to pay a price for the reason she was born as a girl.

I don't know how many readers would read the above lines with  " WTF ??? expression", i felt it the moment i heard all that, and to my surprise most of the girls are okay with the "D-devil" because "that's the way it is in our society......."

I am surprised at the way the educated youth is completely fine with the concept....Education gives us the ability to understand, the ability to express,equips us with the knowledge to fight against wrong but here the degrees that guys hold are a predictor of their so called "Market Price" and not to blame the boys, girls are an equal partner in crime because they don't speak up,even when they are educated enough.....I feel ashamed because we talk of gender equality,but still we consider ourselves on a lower ground when we come to decisions as important as wedding,why cant we say no to "DOWRY",we compete for the best education, the best colleges,we put in equal efforts to achieve our ambitions,we dream about our careers,then why do we take a backseat here.......We are raised with equal affection by our parents, they spend equally for our education......they want to give us a happy, fulfilled life, then why do they fall a prey to this social vice......

I guess they are some serious loopholes in the society, in the way our thought process goes, and may be some of these petty causes are what make "India world's 4th most dangerous place for women"

Does that not need serious thinking ,to change mindsets,to change "that is how it is attitude"....

It does,and with that it requires the will to fight back, to say "No" to something that is wrong....

To My Alma Mater !!!!!!!

School life is long,the end seems so far,

But ambitions are hitched to a star,As we grow and we learn, we shall ever remember,

"Virtue Alone Ennobles"

Lines from our school anthem,just randomly came to my mind and urged me to dedicate a post to my School......St. Joseph's Convent Senior Secondary School,my second home,from Kinder Garten to Primary to Senior Secondary to High School,14 years of wonderful memories that the place gave me have been the most cherished of all the Institutes I studied at,I wonder if somebody would disagree at " There's nothing like school life "

The classic missionary building,the huge playground,the assembly stage,the magnificent auditorium,the beautiful Chapel, the calm Convent and the angelic statue of Mother Mary.........all flow like the flashback of a movie in my mind when I think about SJC.The place instilled discipline,punctuality and culture,by charging a modest fee that can be the lowest I could guess for a place like it is. Our day started with the wonderful prayer assemblies which refreshed us for the day... Yes, our school had an amazing concept for the morning assemblies,each class would get 3 days in which they would conduct morning assemblies accordingly

1. Life of a great personality,2. A topic in G.K, 3.Creative display,be it anything(skit,dance,drama)

These ideas never left us sleepy during our morning assemblies,the amount of effort we used to put to make our section's management of the same,the best. We had a class decoration competition in the starting of the academic year, the creativity with which we decorated our classrooms,the amazing charts that were prepared for each subject and the competition between different sections for the award of the "best decorated class". this was followed by elections for Captains and wise captains for each house(namely,Red, Blue,Green and Yellow),the same followed by Competitions on drama,dance and singing between all the four houses.

To participate and perform your best,we had awe-inspiring guidance from some of the best teachers in town,be it the Sports Day,or the Annual Day,teachers guided us with the same level of excitement as students....Thanks to them our school functions were amongst the best one could witness in terms of richness and performance..I still remember the Navras dance performance at one of our annual functions(all the 9 "rasas" of basic emotions,beautifully portrayed by a group of dancers on songs chosen across decades of Indian cinema,not even trained in classical dancing.......the kind of mystical experience it was,still lingers in my mind and freshens me up)

The way the teachers inspired students to take up extra-curricular activities,training them,spending extra time from work hours,that is what i guess is called devotion and love for what you do( when I am asked to spend an extra half an hour at work,frankly i know the kind of irritation it creates ;))Thanks to the blessings of those mentors(one name I would like to mention here is Mrs. Shetty,who was a mirror of what the definition of a teacher means,mentor, guide,Guru...words are not enough to express the gratitude that comes straight from heart...and Mrs. Juhi Mehra,one teacher who taught me to write and encouraged every single attempt that I made in the direction..Thanks to you,I am confident enough to dedicate this post to SJC.....

Not to forget the incredible staff,one name that comes to my mind is Nevel Uncle, a name that would come first whenever any kind of help was required. In today's world,where educational institutes have become  a source of making money,I truly feel lucky to have been to a place which has made me sense the pride in the same even after a gap of 7 years,and I am quite sure that this feeling would keep getting stronger in the years to come. The motto "Virtue Alone Ennobles" which emphasises on the strength of character,surely would be a source of inspiration to Josephites all over....Concluding the post with the remaining lines of the School Anthem..

Work and prayer are chosen ways of life,

Hope and peace to gladden every day,

Confidence and courage in every form of strife,

Faith and love to conquer all the way.

School life is a rock on which we shall build,

With a spirit of God to be filled.

As we grow in our minds

May this truth be instilled

"Virtue Alone Ennobles"

Long live SJC !!!!!!     

Nothing like home .....

Its been a week that I am back from home after a trip of 15 days and the post is just waiting to be written,The special things that make home,the most beautiful place...those talks of going home from the day u book the ticket,planning the trip,shopping for family.....the kind of anxiety just before 2 days of leaving.....u land up at the railway station 1 hour in advance,the journey always seems too long and u just keep on staring every hour at your watch........even the air of your hometown seems so familiar,so "yours",the special welcome at home,from neighbours to the maids at your place,flooded with lots of blessings,for all the days you are at home.....being the privileged one to decide the menu... from breakfast to dinner...to the envy of your siblings.......;)Dad coming home a little early than usual and staying awake a little late than usual just because your chit-chat does not take a break...........sister wanting to roam about on the streets of your town on your pet two-wheeler...shopping for all the unnecessary stuff with little sister...........Homecoming becomes a festival to Parents.....Mom becomes a little more busy to fulfill all in your wishlist for the trip.......Dad takes you to the native taking an extra leave from work......meeting grandparents after long long time..........a trip dedicated to graduation days to the second home Indore....spending quality time with best friends,wanting the hour glass to give you a break...but Alas !! one has to come back......the journey back is too short......even the train does not get late then......:( but henceforth starts the wait for another trip and the same circle continues :):)

The Good Old Days !!!!

Its 5::20PM in my watch and its raining heavily outside,My mind is full of flashbacks from the past urging me to write this post as soon as I can.

When I was a kid, the best thing that rain could bring was a holiday from school,it was just awesome to be on the way in the auto and you see schoolmates coming back shouting "Its a holiday",coming back home in those water filled raincoats,with Mom ready to cuddle your wet hair with a towel,and the wonderful hot food items,including those hot roasted "bhuttas".Apart from that seeking permission to get wet in rain with all the kids in the colony,making paper boats and struggling to keep them flowing intact, getting drenched with all the playfulness that those little raindrops could instill within yourself.

When I moved towards my graduation years,away from home,for the first year every single time it rained,I would miss home like anything,I would stare at the downpour,deeply soaked in those memories,Soon after those days passed,and things started getting on track,the shower would bring with itself lots of greenery in and around the hostel and college making me fall in love with my surroundings.Standing in the college labs performing those experiments,eyes stuck on the beauty that i could see outside,the ring road in Indore soaked wet and all that you could smell in the air was the intoxicating smell of sand.Planning to bunk classes and walking to the canteen taking a path that was some sort of a small jungle,lush green trees on both the sides,playing all sorts of silly games over those cups of tea,searching for carts selling "bhuttas" and savouring on them like we did not eat anything in ages.Even in the hostel,getting drenched on the terrace and demanding the Mess wali aunty to prepare "Hot Pakodas" for the evening snacks.

Again its raining today, I am stuck in office,staring at the downpour,makes me feel like running out and getting drenched but I am bound by the rope of discipline,still i love the beauty this season brings along(Here,Bangalore would never give you a chance to miss rains !!!!!)but I still feel the nostalgia in my nerves, wanting to go back to those carefree old days,the uninhibited joy that these "pitter-patter raindrops" bring, I am missing home,missing my college,friends and I miss my life back in Indore.........I wish I would relive those moments again. I am going to walk back to my Pg with an umbrella(I love to do that as well),would love to see those drops falling on to the surface of mother Earth,rejuvenating everything that comes its way.....

 

Simply Adorable !!!

I have a friend X who has another friend Y,and I have a small story to share about them........X was in a relationship with Z about which Y did not know(Z is a friend of Y as well)......Y has been the most special friend of X from a long long time,so it was quite unobvious for X and even Z not to disclose about this relationship to Z but they did not(because of some very obvious reasons).After more than a year of being in the relationship,X finally disclosed his"committed status" to Y and informed Z about it.

If I would have been in Y's place,I would have killed X and Z for not revealing their relationship to me for such a long time,would have fought to an extent where I would have reached to a conclusion that would just have said"How could they",would have sulked, cried and hated them for not telling me the truth...........Now I would tell you what his friend Y did.

She accepted the fact beautifully without any grudges,complaints or misunderstandings.She was happy for her friends and that could be felt as she spoke.She was graceful and sublime in considering the facts and I was just speechless by her manner. I just wondered that how could people be so simple , and have the ability to uncomplicate things. This must look like a very small incident but I am really amazed by the simplicity of the young lady who harmonized the whole matter and found happiness with her friends' decision. Hey "Y", in case you read this, I would just like to tell you that i just loved and and am ammmmmaaaaaaazeeeeed by your integrity and naturalness. You have taught me a basic ingredient of life" Welcoming happiness with open arms without hard feelings for the people whom you love even when they were a little late in sharing it with you".